Ladies, I get this question/comment/emotional unloading all the time.
“My husband hates my Brick & Mortar Store/side hustle/business/Etsy Shop/Online Store/Blog…” Or fill in the blank with whatever your passion is. For some reason he is just not able to get on board with the idea.
Here is the problem when your husband doesn’t support your business.
You can’t continue to pursue it.
You just can’t do it without his cheerleading abilities.
Before you throw in the towel on your business now that I semi-harshly told you to quit I ask that you to dig in and find out WHY he doesn’t support it.
Is it an additional financial stress to start up? Sidenote: My husband is very conservative and I always assumed he wouldn’t want to invest our personal money in starting our business. Once we looked at the numbers together, he realized it would allow me to be spend more time with our kids, and eliminate a $1500 daycare bill – he was all in.
Don’t assume you know why he’s feeling the way he is. Ask him.
Is he harboring resentment for the extra clothes he has to fold and bottoms he has to wipe now that you are busy busting out custom wreath orders?
Is he feeling neglected?
Has he been praying about the situation?
Get real and raw about the whys and hows of what makes him feel your business isn’t working. Your husband, marriage, family, and sanity are worth it. No matter how hard it hurts or how selfish his responses sound at the time, keep an open heart, hear what he has to say, and take some time to digest it.
The above scenario can either be the beginning of a major argument or a breakthrough into better communication.
Most of this depends on your reaction to him in his moment of honesty.
For the record, when my husband and I started dating, I was working at a bank and had no earthly idea that blogging, speaking, writing, and owning a store were even on the radar. Scott’s dad wasn’t around much when he was growing up, so he didn’t have anyone to show him about woodworking or being handy. Nevertheless, when I have a building request, he always rolls up his sleeves, and does a great job. I would take his support over a shirtless carpenter any day of the week.
Scott was my #1 supporter when I left my corporate job 5 years ago to run my business, You can read part 1 and part 2 of one of the scariest decisions of my life here . I would have NEVER had the balls or the belief in myself if he hadn’t pushed me.
Yes, he even supports me when I sprayed our dining room chairs in the heat of June while 7 months pregnant. He made me take several breaks and brought me plenty of water. This man knows when I am in my happy place!
He takes time off of work to help me set up for every single show I have ever participated it. He even puts on an apron to help customers so I can eat lunch or go to the bathroom.
Real men wear aprons.
If it weren’t for his help and support there is no way this business would still be here.
I have wanted to quit more times than I can count and he always tells me no, to keep at it, to not give up.
He believes in me more than I do.
And he cheers me on every step of the way.
If your husband doesn’t “get” your business that is fine. If it were his passion then HE would be running the business, not you.
But if your husband doesn’t support your business it won’t last long.
You need him in your corner.
Especially when you are in said corner, in the fetal position, threatening to never pick up a paint brush again.
It also helps that he is an awesome Dad and gladly takes over when I am working all weekend or late at night teaching a class.
This is what support looks like. It’s taken us 5 years to figure it out. I pray that you and your spouse can too.